What is Your Life Verse?

More often than not I believe we react.  React to our daily chores.  Our habits.  Surroundings.  The way we do the things we do.  (apologies to the tempting Temptations)

Some call this life.  Just a natural response to daily activities.  Choices.  Decisions.

Yes, decisions.  Those little things that sometimes we make without even a thought, and yet other times we feel like the weight of the world is on our shoulders while we are mulling them over and losing sleep looking at the ceiling at night in our bed.

What’s for dinner?  Should I or shouldn’t I?  Can I without being noticed?  The red pill or the green one?  Which tie?  How about these pants? (or do they make my butt look big?)  Walk or drive?  Cash or credit?  Red or white? But what if?

Simple choices, mostly.  Innocuous and often unconsciously made.  But something helped you make them.  Pulled you in the direction of the white not the red.  Of going right instead of left.  Perhaps it was something in your upbringing.  Something in your fiber.  Something you developed along this journey of life.

Your Moral Compass?

Perhaps you have developed a Life Verse along the way and not really realized you were making choices that instinctively follow this verse of yours.

Do you have a Life Verse?  Or maybe verses?  Does it serve as a Moral Compass for you?

These verses are all around us.  With the popularity of social media, quotes are shared every day.  Open a book.  Listen to music.   Read the Bible.  The newspaper even.

Here are a few that I have seen/heard:

 Live to the point of tears

I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine

Sink or swim, I’ll dive right in

To thine own self be true

I will find a way or make my own

If you fail in raising your children, nothing else really matters

In the end, we only regret the choices we didn’t make

At the end of the day, you did your best, be done with it and get ready for tomorrow

There are literally hundreds of phrases out there that can resonate with each of us and how we live our lives.  Myself, I could fill pages with verses from Proverbs, Songs or Psalms in the Bible, then fill more with things I have said and heard in my life…

If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you always got.

When you are tired and you think you need a rest, stop and think what your competition is doing.

Consciously or not, some of these have stuck with me.  And if I look at how I live my life, well, it seems like there might be a bit of a reflection in what I have done.  Choices I made.

There is a quote from Sir Richard Branson, CEO of Virgin, that has been circulating on Facebook recently.  Paraphrased it is something like, “When you are faced with an opportunity that you don’t know if you can achieve, take the opportunity and figure out how to do it later”.  

I like that.  It is a lot like life itself.  Would any of us, given a choice and all of the hard things we face, not think twice if we were given the choice of coming into this life?  Maybe yes or no?  But we are here so let’s figure it out!

Another recent verse I heard was something along the lines of,Love your parents and treat them with loving care and respect.  For you will only know their value in your life when you see their empty chair”.  Truth.

Gale Sayers, the great Chicago Bears running back had one that I think is beautiful.  His autobiography carried it as the title…

God is first.  My friends (family) are second.   And I am third.

So, think about it.  Your Life Verse.  Moral Compass.

Or not.  You can just take Mark Twain’s advice and…

Sing like no one is listening, Love like you’ve never been hurt, Dance like no one is watching and Live like it is heaven on earth.



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“Crossroads” in Life and Music, Can Be a Good Thing


…many things for many people.

Eric Clapton and Cream recorded the song which has held its own against time and is a classic today.  Just the first few riffs of the guitar and the song is instantly recognized.

I went down to the crossroads, fell down on my knees.
I went down to the crossroads, fell down on my knees.
Asked the lord above for mercy, save me if you please.

The song, originally recorded and performed by Robert Johnson, has its origins in the tale about going to the crossroads and “making a deal with the Devil”.  It has been recorded by numerous talented artists and a few that qualify as quasi-talented, but are “artists” none the less.  I have heard versions by Eric Clapton (remarkable, and there is still no one who can claim his title of “Slowhand”…in a positive way), Rick Springfield (yeah, I know…but it was really good), Kenny Loggins (just last week), Cyndi Lauper, Jonny Lang, Lynard Skynard, John Mayer and of course Derek and the Dominoes and Cream.  Great song.

I went down to the crossroads, tried to flag a ride.
I went down to the crossroads, tried to flag a ride.
Nobody seemed to know me, everybody passed me by.

But “the Crossroads” mean different things to different people.  Decisions.  Choices.

Easy ones…no-brainers.  Tough ones…impossible.  Which way?  How?

I’ve been there.  We all have.  This way?  That way?  I dunno…..

There have been churches named Crossroads for a reason.  Movies.  Books.  They all involve difficult choices.  Dilemmas.  Nothing easy here.

Which way to go?

And yet we are all at the “Crossroads” more often than we realize.  We make choices each day…”The Butterfly Effect”.  Every decision we make at the crossroads, echoes throughout the universe (time) and has effects on others, many of us…without knowing.  We ask “why did this happen?”  Perhaps this is why.  Am I over-complicating it?  Maybe.  Am I incorrect?  I don’t think so…at least this time!

When we are younger, we do  not realize or understand it.  Hell, we don’t even think about it.  We have too many other things going on…but that is usually when most “life-changing decisions” can be made.  Good choices.  Bad choices.  Ones made.  Ones ignored.

Even later in life…Another drink?…Another discussion?…Another confrontation?…

Lately there is one I can not ignore.  One that involves my Mother and her future living conditions.  Talk about the “pull of heartstrings”…ouch, I can feel them pull as I type this.

She fell, had surgery and went through inpatient rehab.  Now what?  This?  That?  Neither is optimal.  She won’t like either one.  What about…nah, she isn’t ready for that.

But I feel I am at the “Crossroads”.  So what do I do?  I usually pray.  It helps me.  I know not everyone feels the same way, but I feel that way.  And since this is my post…

You can run, you can run, tell my friend-boy willie brown.
You can run, you can run, tell my friend-boy willie brown.
And I’m standing at the crossroads, believe I’m sinking down.

However, I am not sinking down and I am not running.

I have a wonderful family. Beautiful.  My wife and sons are beyond the best…that includes Yvonne and Rachel (grin).  My brothers and their families, while we are all opinionated, stubborn and perhaps like to control things…we have love and we can work things out.  No worries in the end.

And Mom…well, she has cared for us and now it is our turn to make good, no, the right decisions for her.  We will.  We are at “the crossroads”…Down on our knees.

Hey, that sounds like a good name for a cocktail…


  1. 1.25 oz. bourbon (again, I recommend Buffalo Trace)
  2. 1 oz. aged rum (Pyratt XO is my “go to”)
  3. .25 Green Chartreuse
  4. .75 Velvet Falernum
  5. Orange twist

Mix all the above, except the orange twist, in a shaker with ice.  Adam Frager from co-owner and bar tender at St Louis’  Blood and Sand recommends this stirred and served straight up…although I enjoy it with one large “rock of ice”.  Either way, you can not go wrong.

I seem to be “on my knees” a lot.  Sometimes for my work…sometimes for family…sometimes because it is what it is…Some may think that is not always good.  Perhaps.

But it can indicate I am asking for help…direction…assistance…a miracle?

Or perhaps I am giving thanks.

I will let you decide…meantime…enjoy your life and those in it.

I am!

I went down to the crossroads, fell down on my knees.
I went down to the crossroads, fell down on my knees.
Asked the lord above for mercy, save me if you please.


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